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Dia Lupo's avatar

I *love* this. Especially as someone who’s been laser focused on marriage since childhood and only just now reckoning with that at 30, haha.

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Kate Raphael's avatar

Thank you! That means a ton

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Monica Nastase's avatar

Hi Dia! Haven't we all (women) been laser focused on marriage since childhood?! I've been through it and found out the real happiness is on the other side of divorce. ;-)

(and living to tell the truth about it in my serialized memoir here on substack)

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Monica Nastase's avatar

Great essay! I think we are so much conditioned by society to have marriage as our goal to prove we are worthy, that we really need to force our way out of that mindset. I fell into the same trap, but then I got out. Didn't know about that essay from Patchett, I'll check it out. :-)

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